11 Proven Ways to Build Self Confidence

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Confident people are born not made, right?

We all know a confident person who has always been that way and never seems to have to work at it.

But even great leaders have had to build self confidence at some point, whether they let us see this process or not.

Every human being is shaped by their own experiences and this will affect their confidence levels.

Whilst it’s true that some people will naturally be more confident than others, a lack of confidence can be rectified in simple ways.

See if you can pick out the best way to build self confidence from our list of 11 useful ways to project confident behaviour.

1. Move beyond your comfort zone

If you’ve read any of our personal development articles then you’ll know that we’re big believers in pushing beyond your comfort zone. 

When it comes to building self-confidence, testing yourself in new and challenging situations is a great way to start.

As you become comfortable in previously uncomfortable situations then your resilience and confidence will increase.

You will begin to understand that tackling the unknown should be viewed as an opportunity rather than something to be afraid of.

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2. Break challenges into small goals

Learning to set goals for yourself is the first step in any sort of development, whether this is improving low self-confidence or learning to play a new sport. 

Long-term goals are there to determine your destination but in order to get there what you need to focus on is breaking down big goals into smaller ones.

When it comes to needing to build self confidence, an example of a big goal could be to improve your public speaking. 

The small steps needed to reach this might be to start attending speaking classes, working on your eye contact and doing one thing everyday that scares you.

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3. Use positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are something that not everyone can get their head around but we believe that they’re a powerful way to boost self confidence.

Repeating 2 – 3 positive statements first thing every morning will instil those beliefs in your subconscious. These could be simple statements such as “I am successful, I will achieve” or “I am focussed, I can do this.”

Positive self-talk on a daily basis builds confidence in your own ability and is something that can be implemented immediately.

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4. Understand your body language

The way that we present ourselves to the outside world often reflects the way that we feel on the inside. It is no coincidence that important people in powerful positions look confident from the outset. 

The power pose is a concept that was introduced around 2010 and claims that standing in ‘strong’ positions such as the superman pose (hands on hips, head up, legs astride) can help you feel more confident when facing stressful situations.

Whilst the concept has been given a hard time by some critics who say that postural changes cannot impact one’s frame of mind, it is clear why others can see you as a confident person.

Our view is that the little things make all the difference when it comes to confidence building. Creating a strong positive image of yourself to others certainly won’t dent your confidence!

5. Ditch social media validation

A helpful way to increase your confidence is to decrease the negative influences in your life.

Ditching social media platforms or the daily rants that take place on them is a good idea to get this started.

Over 59% of US Teenagers experienced bullying or harassment due to social media and these stats are growing year on year as the use of smartphones becomes a fundamental part of our daily existence.

If you know that you have a lack of self-confidence then seeking validation from the internet really is playing Russian roulette with your mental health. 

Next time that you’re feeling low and want to feel better about yourself you should try speaking to family members or friends that know you best and have your best interests at heart.

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6. Ask for constructive feedback

Whilst limiting unnecessary negativity is a great way to stop your confidence being dented, shielding yourself from all criticism will limit your growth.

Resilience and confidence go hand in hand.

When you make mistakes it is important that you know where you’ve gone wrong and how you can improve in order to move forward.

Seeking constructive feedback is one of the easy ways to start learning from your mistakes and help your growth.

Although this can sometimes be at odds with your ego, especially if you’ve put hard work into something, accepting that you don’t get things wrong all the time is beneficial for your development.

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7. Apply the growth mindset principles

We are big believers in the growth mindset principles as laid out by Carol Dweck in her book; Mindset.

In fact we’ve written a whole article dedicated to them right here.

Familiarising yourself with this set of rules for growing your mind will go a long way towards changing the way that you perceive yourself and the world around you.

Lifelong learning is a key part of developing a growth mindset and will inevitably help improve your confidence.

Learning new things and adapting to new ideas will stop you becoming anxious about things that you don’t understand. 

By embracing the growth mindset principles you will feel empowered to try new experiences because you will be less afraid of things you don’t know.

8. Become comfortable with your body image

Look around at the people you know and they will all have one thing in common, their differences. 

We are all made to look different from one another and, much like with making mistakes, accepting the way we look is essential in helping our confidence and positive state of mind.

That inner voice which tells us we’re too fat or too skinny isn’t working in our best interests. Insecurity breeds more insecurity and negative thoughts will eventually become negative actions if we don’t recognise them.

The only way to banish negative thoughts about the way we look is to accept that we are who we are. 

We mean this of course in the sense that it’s very difficult to change our skin colour, face shape or height, as opposed to not wanting to lose a few pounds if you’ve been living on a diet of takeaways!

9. Invest in professional development

For some people having a good job is enough to give them self-confidence as a professional. But others need to be continually developing themselves and feel like they’re growing in order to get that sense of purpose.

If you’re an employer or business owner then helping to improve your employee’s confidence should be high on your list of priorities. Having a team member that is confident and empowered in what they’re doing will add value to your company.

Encouraging attendance at a networking event to improve client relations or putting them through a leadership skills course are common examples of things that businesses can do to encourage professional development in their staff.

10. Take up regular exercise

Physical activity can be an unexpectedly powerful tool in improving your confidence levels. 

Starting a new gym workout or playing sport not only stimulates your brain by learning new skills and meeting different people but the activity itself releases feel good chemicals called endorphins into your bloodstream.

Your body likes these chemicals and rewards you with feelings of confidence and happiness. The more regularly you exercise, the more benefits you’ll get.

Starting new habits that reward you mentally are a positive way of becoming more secure and confident in yourself.

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11. Improve your communication skills

Poor communication skills can cause a wealth of problems.

Lots of anxiety, especially in the workplace can come from not knowing where you are, what people think of you or things you feel that you’re being judged on.

Internalising these thoughts leads to negative self-talk and ultimately a lack of self belief.

The good news is that lots of these issues can be resolved by improving the way that you communicate with others.

It might seem like a simple thing, but speaking up when you’re unclear on something or clarifying a situation will at least help you know what you’re supposed to be doing. 

Lots of anxieties come from uncertainty, so understanding things better will reduce these. 

It might seem like obvious advice, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t communicate their thoughts and feelings, and as a result feel uncertain.

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That brings us to the end of our 11 ways to build self-confidence article and we hope that you’ve managed to pick up some useful nuggets of information to help you boost your confidence.

If this article has left you hungry for more knowledge around mindfulness then read our growth mindset examples article or inspire your mind with these Mindset Monday quotes.